The Reverse Gap…


Pale Painting


Is there a gap between where you are now, and where you want to be?

I think this is true for the majority of people.  We all have things that we want to achieve, or own, or accomplish.

Many of us are not happy now because we are thinking about where we want to be in the future, so we put off happiness until we get to that mythical point in the future when we have achieved what we want.  However that is an ever shifting point because more often than not, once we achieve some sort after goal, we immediately start looking towards the next big thing.

Instead of focussing on the gap between where we are now and where we want to be.. we could try focussing on where we are now compared to where we were 2 years ago, 5 years ago, etc… and see just how far we have come.  Being grateful for all we have achieved in this time.  Putting us in a mindset of gratitude and feeling accomplished rather than a mindset of “wanting”.

If there is something longed for but not yet realised in your life, you should try spending at least as much time thinking about your “reverse gap”, as you think about the gap between where you are now and where you still want to go.

Your happiness should not be reserved for when you attain your goals…. Your happiness should be experienced in the NOW.  It is important to feel happy now because we work better and more effectively when we are feeling positive.  In his book “The Happiness Advantage”, Shaun Achor explains that our brains are actually hardwired to perform at their best when we are happy. So whilst I am not suggesting that you “settle” for how far you have already come, therefore giving up on any and all future expectations… but rather, spending a little time each day in the “reverse gap” and cultivating a feeling of gratitude and joy, could just be the difference required to shift your perspective (and therefore your performance) to the next level… helping you to attain those desires sooner.

Worth a try.